Communication can be both verbal and non-verbal. On the verbal side we communicate with our words and the tone we use when we talk to others. On the non-verbal side communication happens a lot with our body language. These things are important because it helps us to prepare so that we can "communicate so clearly that you are understood and so clearly that you are not misunderstood". One of the greatest causes to divorce and broken relationships is because their wasn't good communication. In class my teacher pointed out that when he is a marriage and family therapist the most common reason why more woman are initiating divorce is because they feel like the husband doesn't love them any more. He continued and said that often times the husband is very surprised to hear this because he does love her. In these instances the problem could have been resolved had both the husband and the wife needed communicated clearly to each other.
I realize that communicating is sometimes easier said than done but there are things we can keep in mind that will help us have clear communication...
- We can ask for clarification by saying "so you are trying to say..." or another example could be "i'm not sure what you mean can you explain your thoughts further?".
-Be patient and don't interrupt the other person.
-Don't be judgmental but try to be understanding.
-Don't beat around the bush.
-Focus on one concern at a time.
-Learn how the other person communicates
-Communicate always not just when there is a fight or argument going on
-Try to communicate love everyday
-Let the other person be right, its ok for you to be wrong about something.
Our relationships need communication to survive because without it we won't be able to solve problems and conflict as well as understand the other person's point of view better.
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